This new recognition of femcels has tended to stop there. In recent months, headlines have named 2022 “ the year of the ‘femcel’” and heralded a coming “ femcel revolution,” wherein women are “reclaiming involuntary celibacy” and asserting their right to give a name to their loneliness and alienation. This was a scary and dizzyingly complicated story, and femcels, whose rage was quieter and whose presence was smaller, didn’t really factor in.įive years later, incels are a known quantity, and femcels are the new mystery. In a 2018 report on “the intersection of misogyny and white supremacy,” the Anti-Defamation League outlined how incels’ sense of entitlement to sex was leading them toward other extremist spaces and beliefs.
Coverage also illuminated the broader “Manosphere,” the sprawling online network of disaffected young men that overlapped with the so-called alt-right and with President Donald Trump’s rabid army of MAGA trolls. The lonely and angry young men of the internet became a subject of fascination because their language was disgusting and their threats of violence against women were real-incels deified the murderer Elliot Rodger, who killed six people (and himself) in Isla Vista, California, in 2014 and left behind a YouTube video in which he outlined his plans to punish women for rejecting him. They were pretty normal.”Īround the same time that Amanda was getting involved in the femcel community, mass media attention was focused on its far-better-known male counterpart. “ At least there are other people out there who are like me. “Even though the women in the were pretty depressed and sad, it did give me reassurance,” she said.
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So I was like, Okay, that applies.” Online, she found thousands of other women who were trying to figure out how to live without the kind of romantic love that our society has deemed a pillar-maybe the pillar-of happiness. “In a very literal way: I was involuntarily celibate and female. When she first heard the term femcel, it offered some clarity. She was anxious and unhappy, but she didn’t want to talk about any of it with her friends. “I was the kind of girl in school where it was like, people would say ‘Oh, he has a crush on you’ to make fun of the guy,” Amanda told me. “Guys don’t treat ugly girls like people,” reads another. “Normies can’t comprehend real loneliness,” an early post begins.
They could be kind of mean-like male incels, they mocked lucky, beautiful women, whom they called “Stacys.” Mostly, they wrote about being sad. They were finding the modern dating landscape-the image-based apps, the commodified dating “market,” the illusory “freedom” to be found in hookup culture-to be unnavigable, and they talked about taking a “pink pill,” and opening their eyes to the reality that society was misogynistic and “lookist.” They could be funny-in 2019, a commenter repeated a pretty friend’s suggestion that nobody really needs to wear makeup, adding five heart-eye emoji and a link to the joke subreddit r/thanksimcured. (I agreed to refer to her by her first name only, to separate her current life from her former internet identity.) They came to complain about the superficiality of men and the privilege of pretty women, and to share their experiences moving through the world in an unattractive body, which therefore disadvantaged them romantically, socially, and economically. This Reddit forum was called r/Trufemcels, and she commented there under the username “strangeanduglygrl.” Amanda didn’t post very often, but she checked in every day on the community of self-identified “femcels,” or involuntarily celibate women. “Men didn’t like us, guys didn’t want to be with us, and it was fine to acknowledge it.” “We were all ugly,” Amanda, a 22-year-old student from Florida told me, recalling the online community she found when she was 18. This article was featured in One Story to Read Today, a newsletter in which our editors recommend a single must-read from The Atlantic, Monday through Friday.
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